Invest In You #JingleLadies
Investing in yourself, I’ve come to learn, is PARAMOUNT to living an abundantly fulfilled life. Although I’ve always intuitively known this, (definitely 100 percent pass for sisters but I am my mothers daughter in the sense I have relived some of her experiences when pouring into the wrong things and wrong people. There isn’t anyone to blame for this, we are all human and we all live, love and we learn, what would be the point of life if everything was set out so perfect and no one made mistakes or learnt anything or grew?
It was my responsibility to unlearn those behaviours I didn’t like, it was my responsibility to become self aware and everyday I make that choice to work towards and invest in a better me.
The only thing is though, if I am not careful, if I am not conscious, I default to the same behaviours as my mother in that past version of herself. Pouring into everything around me and putting myself on the back burner.
I’ve had to learn the hard way that this is not sustainable. This can be hard to do because as women it is our instinct to nurture. But at the end of the day, none of us can pour from an empty cup.
In order to be able to show up as your best self, you have to nurture your mind, body, and spirit by investing in you.
If I want to become the woman I dream of being, and live a fulfilling, abundant life, then it’s inevitable I have to start investing in the most important thing of all: me.
What does it mean to invest in yourself?
Investing in yourself means you are putting in the time, money, and energy into making your current and future life better. Instead of focusing on things that will not increase your happiness or wealth in the long term, look for ways to expand your knowledge and make your life better.
When you focus on improving yourself and reaching your goals, you will notice the positive domino effect on your finances, career, health, and happiness.
Investing in yourself can:
- Build your confidence,
- Broaden your perspective,
- Develop your purpose, and
- Increase your wealth.
How to Invest in You
From surface level to deeply internal, here are some ways that you can invest in you
RELATIONSHIP WITH THE DIVINE
The Divine is an intelligence, a consciousness, and an awareness, and since consciousness is awareness and awareness is paying attention—and paying attention is being present—it is always present with you.
If you’ve ever had an IRL conversation with me you’ll know I am a huge believer of the like attracts like theory and of The Secret. The ideology is that where you place your attention is where you place your energy, and wherever or whatever you place your attention and energy on expands.
So if you put your attention and energy on a relationship with the Divine, then as your attention on it expands, there should be more of its intelligence available to you in your life.
If you’re not sure why this is so important (some of us here are very in the know of the Divine and some of us may be learning about it for the first time), give it a try and then you will understand.
Here’s a great example used by Dr Joe Dispenza – If you had a great relationship with your mother, and you asked her to make you a sandwich at midnight, would she make it for you? If you were worthy, your mother would think—I love my kid, he/she is on task and doing the right thing, and we have a great relationship. I will make it. She would do this because she loves you, wants to feed you, nurture you, and please you.
In other words, the Divine is willing to meet you if you make the effort to be in a healthy relationship with it.
When you connect to the Divine, your soul—your purpose, your calling—you are connecting to Source energy. And connecting to your soul is perhaps the most important thing you can do in a lifetime.
DO THINGS SOLO
The idea of doing something alone, particularly something both public and fun, can be an intimidating experience. But it’s an experience that is worth having, as it is enriching and liberating.
I’m a solo-girl. I’m the one you see going for walks alone. The one who eats a full dinner (plus dessert!) at a sit-down restaurant by myself, usually at Cafe La Davina without shame. Despite the fact that I have a ton of amazing people in my life, I frequently go on these sorts of outings all on my lonesome and I LOVE IT.
When you’re with someone else, you are often obliged to their pace. The first solo trip I took was to San Francisco and I had never felt freedom like it. You set your own itinerary, can change your mind, can be spontaneous, it’s great fun. When you go out into the world by yourself, you are better able to focus without the distraction of social interaction. It’s like all of your senses are heightened and you can really enjoy your surroundings.
It doesn’t matter what you do, just spend some time doing something you wouldn’t normally do alone.
If you’re reading this and following along with my Instagram then you’ll know I’ve travelled alone to the Attelia Dental Centre in Antalya, Turkey for a full smile makeover, getting here wasn’t easy, I’m not talking about the flights, no. This was something I have wanted to do for years, after 6 years of braces hadn’t helped my smile I was on a mission to save to afford this treatment, it took 3 years and when I did reach the financial goal to afford it I was then faced with another obstacle, the mental preparation. I’d always thought about having this beautiful smile but I had never really thought too much about how this would actually change my face, til now, or like 3 days ago when everything was confirmed. This has been a tough one to get my head around, but this is an area I am fully determined to invest in myself in. Keep an eye out on my stories to see how I go.
All sorts of people access therapy with all sorts of problems. Many also go, not because they feel there is something wrong, but because they want to get to know themselves better, to ponder the meaning of life or to unleash their creative and authentic selves. As a society, we need to change the way we think and talk about therapy. Ultimately, therapy is a creative process whereby you will learn how to build a healthy relationship with self and others.
We may be called towards our innate wholeness in mysterious ways; symptoms, health breakdowns, life-crises or perhaps through a peak spiritual awakening. The more we ignore the call, the louder the knocking becomes. It pays to invest in your emotional, psychological and spiritual health and well-being before crisis comes a knocking!
When we access therapy it is important to know why we are accessing it, yes we may feel stressed, depressed, chaotic, manic, hopeless, sadness and all sorts of different emotions but we wont always understand where these emotions come from, why they have arisen or what had maybe triggered them.
The great news is, you can get to the root of those feelings, for free, in your own space and at your own time. Understanding is the key to having successful therapy and we can begin to understand by practicing mindfulness and meditation.
You can use it to increase awareness of yourself and your surroundings. Many people think of it as a way to reduce stress and develop concentration.
People also use the practice to develop other beneficial habits and feelings, such as a positive mood and outlook, self-discipline, healthy sleep patterns, and even increased pain tolerance.
A brilliant place to start learning about meditation or enhancing your mindfulness is with Spiritual Life Coach and Meditation teacher Brenda Shankey using her brand new hub The Feel Good Bubble. I know Brenda personally and have witnessed some of her great teachings throughout our times together. I will also be showing you all The Feel Good kit on my Instagram LIVE so do not miss it! (Thursdays 9pm)
What interests you?
What have you always wanted to try or learn or experience, but just haven’t gotten around to?
And what skills or hobbies would help you grow, in your career or in your personal life?
Spend some time making a list, and commit to learning something new this month. Make sure it’s fun and you’re excited about it.
I’ve always got loads of things I want to learn more about, loads of books waiting to be read, and I’m always allowing my instincts to guide me towards those things.
Just because school is over (thank fuck), your education should never stop. I truly believe we are always learning whether we are aware of it or not but the best part is, you’re completely in charge of what you learn.
There are so many courses readily available online and YouTube tutorials for almost anything, so whatever it is that interests you, just start by doing a quick Google search and see where you end up.
Do you love your job? If the answer is no, then what would you rather be doing? Even if you do love your job what would help you outside of that?
Your answer is your brilliant money making side hustle idea.
Maybe you want to become a blogger, or sell clothes on ebay, or make your own vegan beauty products and sell them online?
Make sure you’re passionate about whatever it is you’re doing, otherwise it won’t be fun, and it won’t be sustainable. HEAVY ON THE SUSTAINABLE.
Remember, you don’t need to know how to do this before you get started. Invest time and money in learning how to do it. Give yourself permission to fuck things up, and keep going until you figure it out.
I had no idea what I was doing when I started blogging, I didn’t even know it would stick with me this long or if it was something that could be monetised, but, as I grew more passionate, more information and knowledge came to me, it’s been a long road but eventually I figured out the skills I would need to really make something out of this and I learnt and practiced and practiced and practiced, and networked and learned and practiced.
So learn, practice, fuck up but most of all don’t give up!
Will Smith said it best:
A side hustle can be a brilliant outlet for your creativity, and also a lucrative second income stream.
I started picking up freelance writing jobs recently, but I set up my website 6 years ago and while I am still working part time and maintaining good mental health, this has given me a great foundation to build on.
Something happens when you take yourself out of your everyday environment. You’re able to see things from a new perspective, you find clarity, and inspiration often strikes.
The chance to escape your comfort zone, meet new people and discover more about yourself are just some of the well-known reasons to give travelling alone a go.
If you’ve travelled on your own or are considering your first solo trip, chances are you’re reasonably bold and assertive. These are characteristics of natural leaders, which, when possessed by women, can bamboozle certain types of people. (Hint: the types who are quick to use labels such as ‘control freak’ and ‘bossy’.)
The joy of solo travel is that you get to choose exactly how to spend your day, guilt-free, without fear of judgement. You’re free to stick to your own hour-by-hour action-packed itinerary, or laze by the pool for two weeks. You can eat, sleep, spend money and socialise however and whenever you want. You make the rules – and get to break them too.
So whether you want a one night break in Skegness or a full blown luxury Bali escape – DO IT. DO IT FOR YOU <3
Who are you giving your valuable time and energy to?
And how are they making you feel?
And those are the only 2 real questions you have to ask yourself here… If they aren’t making you feel equal, valued, appreciated and are causing anxiety and tensions in your body then you need to jump ship ASAP. Like get the fuck out, now.
This is with any person you come across in life. Life is way too short to be allowing people to transfer negative energy on to you. You also have to train yourself to be able to empathise with certain situations, you don’t have to be a cold bitch, I mean imagine, Bestie has a shitty situation and she wants to talk, yes it’s a negative situation that she might be dealing with but we don’t have to take on that energy, we can support and love her without taking that in and letting it fester in our bodies. Same with anyone and any situation.
You need people around you who are positive, supportive, inspiring and healthy. Because this will help you become more of those things.
If you don’t know anyone in your life like that, make time to go to networking events where you can connect with more like-minded women. If any of you would be interested in a coffee date with good vibes and me chucking encouragement and empowerment down your throats then please, do let me know 🙂
There’s something a lot worse than having a cluttered home or work space, and that’s having a cluttered mind. A cluttered mind is restless and unfocused. It tries to move in many different directions at once and the result is that very little gets done.
Physical clutter leads to mental clutter. First of all, clutter bombards the mind with excessive stimuli, which forces the brain to work overtime. Secondly, physical clutter signals to the brain that there’s always something else that needs to be done, which is mentally exhausting.
Mental clutter can include all of the following: worrying about the future; ruminating about the past; keeping a mental to-do list; complaints; and so on.
If your house is a mess and you need to organise and declutter it, how would you begin? You would probably start by choosing one important area—for example, the kitchen table—and clearing it of all clutter. So that’s what you do, start small and build up, you’ll find that as you declutter your home, your mind will relax and you’ll be able to think clearly and make sure your thoughts have intention, and know that you are worthy and deserving of clarity, a free mind and a clean and organised personal space.
And that is how to invest in you.
You know what to do. Give yourself permission to invest your time, money and energy in your growth, starting today.
Don’t look back, and don’t hesitate.
You are worth it, all of it.
Stay safe and take care,
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